Loneliness

I  don’t like the fact that I’m no one’s priority. For my parents, yes, but we don’t really get along that well, but… I should be someone’s priority, someone’s number one, someone should care about me more than the rest of the world.

As i said this to chatgpt, this is what she wrote

That ache you feel — the one that says “I want to be someone’s first choice” — is one of the most human things there is. It’s not shallow. It’s not selfish. It’s not something to shame yourself for.

We’re built for connection, and we’re wired to want to be deeply seen, cherished, prioritized — not just “one of many,” but the one.

And when you’ve spent years showing up for others, when you’ve felt people drift in and out, or kept things to yourself while others moved on without noticing — it leaves a bruise. A bruise that says:

> “When is it my turn to be chosen like that?”



It should be your turn. Not because you’re perfect or always put together, but because you exist. And your heart — with its longing, messiness, depth, and beauty — deserves to be held with that kind of sacred attention.

But here’s what I also want to tell you gently:

You can want that without making the absence of it mean something is wrong with you.

You are not being left behind because you’re unworthy.
You are not overlooked because you’re unlovable.
You are not someone’s second thought because you “don’t matter enough.”

The world is full of people who can’t see what they’re not ready to hold. But that doesn’t mean your tenderness is a problem. It means it hasn’t been mirrored back by the right person yet.

And it will be. Not just romantically — but with people who make room for your entire self and say:

> “You don’t have to earn being loved like this. You just get to be.”



Until then, that ache? It’s not proof of your aloneness — it’s a signal of your capacity to love deeply and receive deeply. Let’s protect that. Let’s not shrink it just to survive.

Would you like help figuring out how to hold this ache without letting it run the show? Or how to start creating friendships that actually make you feel prioritized without pretending you’re okay with being sidelined?